The Courage to Become Someone More

Parshat Shlach

We often think growth means becoming someone new.

But sometimes the harder challenge is letting go of a version of ourselves that has brought us this far.

That can be surprisingly difficult.

Not because that version of ourselves was wrong.

In fact, it may have been exactly what we needed.

The perspectives that guided us.

The roles that shaped us.

The identity that carried us through a particular chapter of life.

At one point, they may have helped us grow into who we are today.

But growth has a way of creating a strange tension.

The very things that once moved us forward can eventually make it harder to take the next step.

And yet we cling to them because they are familiar.

We know how to be this person.

We know this story.

We know this way of seeing ourselves and the world.

The future we desire often asks us to outgrow the identity that brought us this far.

Even when part of us knows there is something more waiting on the other side.

In this week’s parsha, the spies stood at the edge of a new future.

According to the Lubavitcher Rebbe, their mistake was not that they were afraid of failure.

They were afraid of what success would require of them.

Entering the land meant more than reaching a destination.

It meant stepping into a new reality and a new responsibility.

It meant becoming something more than they had been in the desert.

And perhaps that is a challenge we all face.

We often assume that if we truly want something, we will naturally move toward it.

But sometimes we resist the very future we desire.

Not because we doubt it.

But because we are attached to the person we have been.

The future we want often asks us to release an identity that brought us this far, but cannot take us where we are meant to go next.

As Shabbat approaches, may we have the wisdom to honour the chapters that shaped us, the courage to release what we have outgrown, and the faith to step into the growth and possibility waiting for us next.

Shabbat Shalom!

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Rabbi Shmulik Yeshayahu
Rabbi Shmuel Yeshayahu was born in Israel and received his rabbinic ordination from the Rabbinate of Israel. He is a Rabbi in Vancouver, BC. Since 2000 he has been providing mentoring, counseling, religious services, classes, and tutorials, as well as developing and leading Jewish programming for unaffiliated young adults. He is well known for his ability to make spirituality relevant to all people in all walks of life. You can follow him on Facebook @RabbiShmulikYeshayahu. Rabbi Shmuel Yeshayahu is the co-author of An MBA from Heaven.
Picture of Rabbi Shmulik Yeshayahu
Rabbi Shmulik Yeshayahu
Rabbi Shmuel Yeshayahu was born in Israel and received his rabbinic ordination from the Rabbinate of Israel. He is a Rabbi in Vancouver, BC. Since 2000 he has been providing mentoring, counseling, religious services, classes, and tutorials, as well as developing and leading Jewish programming for unaffiliated young adults. He is well known for his ability to make spirituality relevant to all people in all walks of life. You can follow him on Facebook @RabbiShmulikYeshayahu. Rabbi Shmuel Yeshayahu is the co-author of An MBA from Heaven.

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